Couples Counselling in Bath

BACP Registered Therapist

When a relationship begins to break down, it can feel deeply unsettling. The person we are most emotionally invested in can suddenly feel distant or unreachable, and even small conversations can quickly turn into conflict. Over time, this can leave both of you feeling hurt, stuck, and disconnected.

Because our romantic relationship is often one of the most important relationships in our lives, when it struggles, it can feel overwhelming and, at times, unbearable.

The good news is that relationships can change. With the right support, couples can begin to understand what has gone wrong, break negative patterns, and find their way back to feeling close and connected again. This is where couples counselling can really help.

Specialist support for:

Affairs · Repeated Arguments · Emotional Distance · Parenting Conflict · Resentment · Intimacy Issues

Book Your Initial Couples Session

What We Can Work On Together

Couples come to therapy for many different reasons. Common areas we work on include:

  • Frequent arguments or communication breakdown
  • Parenting, money, or life direction conflicts
  • Feeling emotionally distant or like housemates
  • Long-term resentment or unresolved hurt
  • Rebuilding trust after betrayal
  • Deciding whether to stay together or separate
  • Intimacy or sexual disconnection
  • Addiction affecting the relationship


Even if things have been difficult for a long time, change is possible when the pattern becomes clearer.

In our work together we focus on:

  • Identifying Your Conflict Cycle. Most couples get stuck in repeating loops. One pursues while the other withdraws. One criticises while the other shuts down. We map this pattern clearly so it becomes visible and easier to change.
  • Triggers & Emotional Regulation. Before communication improves, emotional intensity often needs regulating. We explore what triggers each of you and how to manage reactions before they escalate.
  • Surface Arguments vs Deeper Needs. Often the argument isn’t really about dishes, money or parenting.
    It’s about feeling unimportant, rejected, controlled or unheard.
    We separate the surface issue from the deeper emotional layer so the real problem can be addressed.
  • Assumptions & Stories. When communication breaks down, assumptions fill the gap.
    We work on identifying and gently checking those assumptions rather than reacting to them.
  • Clearing Resentment. Long-held resentment can keep couples stuck in defensive patterns. I provide a structured way to safely express what has built up so it can be understood rather than weaponised.
  • Practical Work Between Sessions. You’ll receive focused exercises and worksheets to work on between sessions so change happens in real life — not just inside the therapy room.
    Many couples find that once the pattern becomes clear, the intensity of conflict often reduces quickly because the problem finally makes sense.

Sexual Difficulties

When sex has been absent from a relationship for a while, it’s easy to become stuck. Bedtime can feel awkward, and even talking about sex can feel difficult. The longer it goes on, the bigger the issue can seem.

Sometimes the first step is to officially take sex off the table for a while. This takes away the pressure and allows you to focus on affection, cuddles, touch and simply feeling close again.

From there, we can gently work towards bringing intimacy and sexual connection back in a way that feels natural for you both.

Sex isn’t everything, but for many couples it’s an important part of feeling close, wanted, loved and connected.

What You’ll Take Away

A clearer understanding of the patterns in your relationship

  • Tools to prevent arguments from escalating
  • A better understanding of triggers, including how ADHD can affect communication and conflict
  • A calmer and more constructive way to approach difficult conversations
  • Greater clarity about the future of the relationship
  • A safer way to express needs and concerns
  • Practical ways to change the patterns that keep you stuck


Whether you are trying to reconnect or decide what comes next, this work helps you stop reacting and start responding

Our Sessions Together

We start with an assessment, where I meet with you as a couple to understand your relationship, the difficulties you’re facing, and what you hope to achieve through counselling. This helps us identify recurring patterns and clarify your goals.

After the assessment, most couples benefit from around 6 to 10 sessions, where we work towards healthier communication, a stronger emotional connection, and meaningful, lasting change.

Take the First Step Towards Lasting Change

If things feel stuck and you’re ready to get some support, I’d be glad to help. You don’t need to have it all figured out.

Just a willingness to look at what’s going on and start changing it.

Sessions are available online or in person in Bath.

Let’s Get Started