Welcome To Paul James Counselling

Professional Counselling for Individuals and Couples

I work with both individuals and couples. Whether you’re living with trauma, struggling with addiction, facing relationship difficulties, or simply feeling overwhelmed, I offer a calm, supportive space where we’ll work through what’s holding you back and focus on making real, lasting change

About Me

Let’s work together to create real change…

I’m a BACP-registered and Relate-trained therapist with a background in helping both individuals and couples find clarity, connection, and relief from emotional overwhelm.

Alongside my professional training, I bring real-world understanding. I draw on my own life experiences and the personal work I’ve done in therapy to offer an approach that’s not only skilled but deeply empathetic. My goal is to meet you where you are and help you move forward, feeling heard, understood, and supported.

What Clients Say

Here’s what some of the people I’ve supported have shared about their experience.

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Paul is the first therapist that I’ve felt able to work with. His kind approach has allowed me to heal in ways I truly didn’t think would be possible. I highly recommend his services.
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I have worked with Paul over two years, and it was the best investment into my mental health I ever made. His Counselling has been able to navigate me through one of the most challenging and strange chapters of my life, and I feel deeply grateful for his advice and his help.
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I have worked with Paul on and off for around 3 years on zoom. I have found the way Paul creates a judgment free space has allowed me to grow as a person and re-centre when I feel out of alignment. I have applied methods Paul has recommended in our sessions and seen significant progress in my life. Thank you Paul and I would highly recommend Paul’s services.
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Victor Chujor
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Paul is a very compassionate and gentle counsellor. He truly cares about his clients and is passionate about the clients he serves. I have no hesitations in referring others to him for psychotherapy and counselling.
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Nick Hatter
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I have known Paul for over 5 years and he has helped me so much in that time. He is very empathetic and kind and has helped me to understand myself much more and to turn my life around. I would highly recommend him
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Steve Coe
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Paul and I work together on both couples counselling and individual counselling, and I can safely say that Paul has been superb, kind, thoughtful and supportive with his work with me, and with a decent amount of common sense thrown in. I would high recommend him.
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Andrew Ecob
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I've known Paul for over 13 years. He is an authentic, insightful and supportive person with many years of experience in helping individuals and couples makes sense of and more importantly find meaning in their lives and relationships. I whole heartedly recommend him to anyone considering individual or couple counselling.
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Russell Cowan
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Would highly recommend Paul to anyone! Really friendly, relaxed, and relatable man. Makes it very easy talking to him.
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Couples Counselling

Relationships can get stuck. You might be arguing more, speaking less, or feeling miles apart. Couples counselling offers a space to understand each other again, communicate better, and rebuild what matters most.

What is Couples Counselling?

Couples counselling provides a safe, neutral space for both partners to explore what’s really going on beneath the surface. Whether you’re struggling with constant arguments, feeling emotionally disconnected, or facing issues with trust and intimacy, therapy helps create room for honest conversation and healing.

Working with a qualified couples counsellor can help you:

  • Improve how you communicate and resolve conflict
  • Rebuild emotional connection and closeness
  • Understand each other’s needs, fears, and expectations
  • Heal after infidelity or betrayal
  • Strengthen your partnership and plan for the future

Why It Can Help

You don’t have to stay stuck in painful cycles. Couples counselling can help you reconnect, rediscover why you chose each other in the first place, and move forward with greater clarity and mutual respect.

I work with many different issues with a particular interest in:

  • Infidelity: lack of trust following an affair
  • Different parenting ideals
  • Lack of intimacy or conflicting physical needs
  • Communication breakdown
  • How financial stress impacts the relationship
  • Anger issues or aggressive behaviour
  • Alcoholism or drug addiction within the relationship
  • Drifting apart emotionally or physically 

What My Services Can Help With

  • Managing Anxiety and Stress
  • Improving Relationships and Communication Skills
  • Overcoming Depression
  • Enhancing Self-esteem and Personal Growth
  • Navigating Life Transitions and Changes
  • Healing from Trauma and PTSD
  • Coping with Grief and Loss
  • Addressing Work and Career Challenges

Individual Counselling

Sometimes life feels heavy, unclear, or just too much. Whether you’re dealing with anxiety, low self-worth, or something harder to name, individual counselling can help you understand yourself more deeply and move forward with clarity and calm.

How Individual Counselling Works

Individual counselling gives you a supportive, confidential space to explore what’s really going on.

You Might Be Feeling…

You may be feeling overwhelmed, anxious, stuck in negative patterns, or simply unsure about the next step in your life. Whatever you’re carrying, therapy can help you feel less alone and more in control.

As an individual counsellor, I work with people who are:

  • Living with the effects of trauma, PTSD, or CPTSD
  • Struggling with addiction or finding they can never quite stay stopped
  • Experiencing anxiety, stress, or burnout
  • Struggling with low confidence or self-esteem
  • Feeling lost, flat, or disconnected from themselves
  • Trying to make sense of difficult past experiences
  • Looking for clarity, calm, and emotional resilience

What We’ll Focus On

Together, we’ll work to understand what’s holding you back and find new ways to move forward with more peace, purpose, and self-understanding.

Together we will:

  • Look back into your past and make links to how experiences are affecting you today
  • Reduce the strength of your inner critic
  • Create space for you to hear your own voice in communicating what you need
  • Practice expressing needs and communicating emotions with others

What to Expect From Counselling

Starting therapy can feel like a big step, especially if you’re not sure what to expect. My aim is to make the process feel calm, clear, and focused on what matters most to you.

  • A safe, supportive space to talk openly, without fear of judgement
  • A focus on real progress, not just talking week after week
  • Clear, shared goals that we revisit as things shift
  • Practical tools you can use between sessions
  • A therapist who listens, challenges gently, and respects your pace

Counselling isn’t about ‘fixing you’. It’s about understanding what’s going on beneath the surface and helping you feel more in control, more connected, and more like yourself again.

Take the First Step Towards Clarity and Connection

Whether you’re navigating something alone or trying to reconnect in your relationship, counselling can help you move forward with support and purpose.

If any of this resonates with you, I’d be glad to help you take the next step.

Sessions available online or in person