Welcome to Paul James Counselling, together we can journey through your challenges and help you to get back on track with your life.
Couples counselling is different to individual counselling because it focuses on the relationship between the couple, rather than the therapist and the individual. It is a safe place for a couple to enhance communication between each other, and to gain a deeper level of understanding as to why harmful patterns are occurring.
When two individuals enter a relationship, they carry with them unconscious scripts from their past which can affect their present way of relating. Couples can trigger each other unintentionally and thus arguments may arise.
Within my couples counselling and coaching sessions, I will help you find healthy ways of interacting and getting in touch with your truth within the relationship. As your couples counsellor and coach, my role is to remain neutral, and non-judgemental, with whatever each person may bring.
I have decided to specialise in couples therapy because I have a natural ability to help couples find their truth within 6 to 12 sessions. I trained with Relate, where I acquired my level 5 certificate in couples counselling and have helped numerous couples navigate the challenges that a relationship can bring.
I have also had training in transactional analysis (TA), which is used to facilitate a better understanding of individuals, relationships, and communication.
I have always been interested in how the human mind works and how our past experiences can affect our present life. From a young age, I seemed to have had an innate awareness and understanding of people.
I am passionate about helping couples find their way in life. I have a natural ability to help people feel comfortable in my company. I work with many different issues. I will help you find solutions in your life. I offer both counselling and practical steps to your problems.
I have tools to help couples bring effective communication back into their relationship so that they can feel heard and understood within the partnership.
“Lack of communication can drive a spike between two people wider than any physical distance.”
― Mark W Boyer
Prior to counselling, you may have worried about bringing up a sensitive subject with your partner, or your conversations may have felt like they were going round and round in circles, with a building sense of frustration; however, after attending counselling with myself you will be able to talk through disagreements effectively with empathy and understanding.
My job is to help with communication and unspoken emotions. When emotions are high it is difficult to hear each other, this is when it is helpful to have a trained professional like myself in the room to help navigate feelings.
We then come back together to work through helpful tools for communication and the best ways forward for you both. We can evaluate(after the sixth session) how we all think therapy is going and consider what is needed moving forward.
I work with many different issues with a special interest in:
- Infidelity: lack of trust following an affair
- Different parenting ideals
- Lack of intimacy or conflicting physical needs
- Communication breakdown
- How financial stress impacts the relationship
- Anger issues or aggressive behaviour
- Alcoholism or drug addiction within the relationship
- Drifting apart emotionally or physically
Once you have decided you would like an appointment with me, I will ask if you can make daytime appointment or if you would require evenings. Once we have agreed on a convenient time, I can then book the session in.
I see clients from quiet and relaxing counselling rooms in both, Bath, and Bristol, as well as online via Zoom.
Please contact me for more information or to book your first session using the following methods:
I am more than happy for you to call for a free brief consultation to see how you feel working with me.