Welcome to Paul James Counselling, where I specialise in couples and marriage counselling.
Together, we will navigate through the complexities and challenges of your relationship, paving the way towards renewed connection and mutual understanding.
Let’s embark on a journey, transforming your relationship hurdles into stepping stones towards deeper understanding, more heartfelt communication, and a resilient partnership.
Couples counselling differs from individual counselling in that it focuses on the relationship between the couple, rather than on the relationship between the therapist and the individual. It provides a safe space for couples to enhance their communication and gain a deeper understanding of why certain detrimental patterns emerge.
When individuals enter a relationship, they bring with them unconscious scripts from their past, which can influence their current way of relating. This means couples can unintentionally trigger each other, leading to arguments.
Within my couples counselling and coaching sessions, I will help you find healthy ways of interacting and getting in touch with your truth within the relationship. As your couples counsellor and coach, my role is to remain neutral, and non-judgemental, with whatever each person may bring.
I trained with Relate, where I acquired my level 5 certificate in couples counselling and have helped numerous couples navigate the challenges that a relationship can bring.
I have also had training in transactional analysis (TA), which is used to facilitate a better understanding of individuals, relationships, and communication.
I am passionate about helping couples find their way in life. I have a natural ability to help people feel comfortable in my company. I work with many different issues. I will help you find solutions in your life. I offer both counselling and practical steps to your problems.
I have tools to help couples bring effective communication back into their relationship so that they can feel heard and understood within the partnership.
“Lack of communication can drive a spike between two people wider than any physical distance.”
― Mark W Boyer
Prior to counselling, you may have worried about bringing up a sensitive subject with your partner, or your conversations may have felt like they were going round and round in circles, with a building sense of frustration; however, after attending counselling with me you will be able to talk through disagreements effectively with empathy and understanding.
My job is to help with communication and unspoken emotions. When emotions are high it is difficult to hear each other, this is when it is helpful to have a trained professional like myself in the room to help navigate feelings.
I work with many different issues with a particular interest in:
- Infidelity: lack of trust following an affair
- Different parenting ideals
- Lack of intimacy or conflicting physical needs
- Communication breakdown
- How financial stress impacts the relationship
- Anger issues or aggressive behaviour
- Alcoholism or drug addiction within the relationship
- Drifting apart emotionally or physically
I offer clients therapeutic coaching as an alternative to therapy on its own. Therapeutic coaching is a mixture of both counselling and coaching, this takes a more proactive approach, as well as giving time and space to support and explore deep emotional issues.
If your life feels confusing and difficult and you wonder how you will ever work through it, then counselling with me can help you to heal and move on with your life. I will enable you to get in touch with feelings and emotions which may have previously been too painful or frightening for you to feel.
I have always been interested in how the human mind works and how our past experiences can affect our present life. From a young age, I have had an innate awareness and understanding of people. I am passionate about helping people find their way in life. I have a natural ability to help people feel comfortable in my company and I offer both counselling and practical steps to different issues.
It is not easy reaching out to a therapist, I have also been on my own personal journey, so I know how it feels. I have worked with a variety of different issues and use my own personal experience through therapy and coaching to offer an insightful and empathetic environment.
A therapeutic relationship is unlike any other relationship; it involves 50 minutes of time dedicated to you; my role as your therapist is to walk alongside you on your path of self-discovery and acceptance.
Together we will:
- Look back into your past and make links to how experiences are affecting you today.
- Reduce the strength of your inner critic.
- Create space for you to hear your own voice in communicating what you need.
- Practice expressing needs and communicating emotions with others.
I believe in the healing process of taking time out of our busy lives to hear our own voices and communicate our emotions and feelings.
Once you have decided you would like an appointment with me, I will ask if you can make a daytime appointment or if you would require evenings. Once we have agreed on a convenient time, I can then book the session.
Please contact me for more information or to book your first session using the following methods:
I am more than happy for you to call for a free brief consultation to see how you feel about working with me.